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  • It depends. My mom wanted to break even when she died. Not leave us money, and not cost us money, but did rely on my sister to help out, not financially much but with some care. I sent maybe $500 total towards that, so pretty close to what she wanted.

    Husband’s parents are loaded, but if his mom needed care I’d help because she has been so nice to me, I was not close with my mom but have been lucky in mothers in law. I don’t expect anything from them, think their plan is to skip us and leave some to the grandkids, but in any case they are rich-ish and do not expect anything in the way of financial help.

    I took time off to raise my kids, so don’t expect to retire but no, I would hope to not need financial help and don’t expect it from them. It’s a win if they don’t need any financial help from me!

    In your case, if your parents sacrificed their future income to raise you, I understand why you feel you owe them, but I don’t really think that way, you don’t accrue debt for being raised. It’s more like whoever ends up best off helps the others, so my most successful daughter wants to be “the rich uncle” who can do that, she helps out her sisters, and my hope is like my mom’s - to not burden them and to die with close to nothing.




  • RBWells@lemmy.worldtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    3 days ago

    Nah it could mean precocious. I learned to read (like, read the newspaper) by 3 and tested with a ridiculous high IQ at 7 but as an adult I feel quite average, related better with adults as a child but relate well with adults as an adult too.