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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • I’m a big guy. Tall, fat, boisterous, strong, opinionated, and outgoing. I love watching people, giving compliments, and delivering a solid joke. I make an impression on people whether I realize it or not. I’m too big to hide so I’ve chosen not to.

    But I’m also an introverted hermit, so I almost never get to be that guy unless I’ve pushed myself to be out and among people.





  • This is, as others have said, a love languages thing.

    Mine is acts of service. When I overstep for my wife and do things for her when she’s asking for an ear, she now understands what I’m doing and why and redirects me to actually listen.

    That, and she enjoys all the cooking and cleaning I do so that she can relax when she gets home.

    We almost never fight now as a result of this and it’s almost always a “This is what I need from you” kind of talk that we can both appreciate and respond to rather than just a screaming match.

    Ask your wife for help in feeding her coworkers from time to time. That might work better. Tell her that you’re concerned for them.