Image: A person writing on a large chalkboard the size of a large wall covered with mathematical formulas and notes. The caption reads, “My autistic mind trying to figure out if she’s into me, she is indifferent or she absolutely hates me.”
Ok, but seriously…I can’t tell when girls are flirting with me. And sometimes, girls act like I’m flirting with them when I am not in any way whatsoever. What is the process NTs use to add meaning to social interactions?! Maybe we can figure this out logically.
It’s actually not extremely hard.
You politely and in private ask her out for a date. If she says yes, she’s into you, if not, she isn’t. The answer might be something like “I’d really want to but I don’t have time bla bla”, that’s always a “no”. If there isn’t a clear “yes, let’s do it at this time” it’s always a no.
Just don’t bother with the signals, this makes it very simple. Of course only simple conceptually, you’ll still need the courage to ask someone out and with like a 95% chance get rejected, but it truly is as simple as that.
I can see this working with strangers, and I would have no problem getting rejected by one. It gets more complicated with people I have to maintain a relationship with because people may be uncomfortable.
99% of people you know will have absolutely no problems with it. The problems are only in your head. Just simply add a “if not, that’s absolutely no problem :)”. And be graceful when rejected. That’s why I added “in private”, no one of the friend group has to know, it will allow them to save face.