• yesman@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Y’all ever notice how much male sexuality is performative for the benefit of other men? I’m not saying that they’re gay, they just seem more motivated by peer approval and status than touching a girl.

    I recently saw an interview with a stripper who said that the dudes who wanted attention from the girls used $100 bills and were discrete, while the dudes who tossed 100 $1 bills were more interested in the attention of their buddies.

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      There’s a weird thing with “conquest”, pulling the ladies, and being somewhat deviant that’s tied to manliness and straightness for some reason.

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          20 hours ago

          Lesbians being well known as universally well adjusted women at the pinnacle of mental health? No weird paleolithic-brain shit going on at all? Nice.

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              10 hours ago

              No, that’s accurate. But laugh implies derision and sense of superiority…over the thing you were responding to…

              I was pointing out lesbians are humans too and not magically immune to stupid relationship things and behaviors. It should be pretty non-controversial but I guess I was wrong.

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                9 hours ago

                I mean we are superior for other reasons. But no. The same internalized misogyny still applies. That’s why I wrote laughs in lesbian as if conquest is just a straight man thing.

                Your sarcasm about us being the pinnacle of mental health is why you got the downvotes. It’s an allusion to gay = crazy, which ya know, with us being in the DSM until more recently is offensive.

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                  I mean the literal post above was about men being crazy. Which…yes. All humans are insane. But it’s sounding like we both wildly misinterpreted the other so 🤷.

                  Never heard of this gay=crazy thing, if you’re considering the DSM I assume much much older. And because I had to, I checked. 1974 it was removed, which explains why I’ve never heard of it. Still has the concept of distress over ones sexuality but…I mean… super anti-gay republicans are proof of this actually being a very sad mental health problem that needs therapy.

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      16 hours ago

      “Hurr durr, everyone I don’t like is a closet homosexual.”