• Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works
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    10 hours ago

    Idk who needs to hear this but:

    Your children don’t owe you self assurance, if they chose to cut contact with you fully then that’s their right.

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        I’m not sure I understand what you’re talking about. You’re related to a couple who have a son who went no contact, but it had nothing to do with politics or abuse? I’m not sure how that maps onto this situation.

        I know some people who have gone no contact due to manipulative dynamics, though the parents refuse to acknowledge they’ve ever done anything wrong. E.g. financial manipulation, or refusing to use their child’s preferred pronouns. I feel like if the parents apologized, acknowledged the problem, and made a commitment to change it would make everyone happier. Not sure how that applies to your story, but that’s been my experience.

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    10 hours ago

    Ah the classic:

    “Your behaviour has harmed me, so I do not wish to see you anymore”

    “No, wrong, it is YOUR behaviour in saying this that has harmed ME”

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    14 hours ago

    Slightly off topic:

    When my parents divorced, I was bummed out that I had to attend two thanksgiving dinners. The second was not turkey. We charred hot dogs over an open fire (lived in the midwest at the time) and made smores. It was pretty great.

    This had nothing to do with the election. It’s just a nice memory.

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      5 hours ago

      To be fair, he might have not supported taking their rights… he might have just loved a rapist, criminal so much he was willing to overlook taking away their rights.

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    13 hours ago

    merely because they believe my one vote…

    He thinks his vote doesn’t contribute or something?

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      11 hours ago

      Conservatives think consequences are extremely unfair. Everything is an act of god to them.

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    16 hours ago

    “I let them”

    Dudes showing internally he thinks he controls their votes. That he could’ve not let them had he chosen so.

    So his daughters should be thankful for such a benevolent patriarch. /S

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      He clearly said in context “I let them vote in peace without objection or argument frome me”. Kind of like how I can either let your comment go or choose to respond without claiming to have control over you. The man is still ignorant AF though.

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        Your explanation is accurate, but your undercutting the importance of the statement. If you don’t have the power, then you don’t “let people” do anything.

        Which is to say, he was contemplating being a giant a****** and pressuring them to vote the way he wanted, but he decided to use common sense, to not be a jerk, and now he’s asking for a prize for doing what most of us do all the time everyday.

        This doesn’t make him a horrible human being, but it certainly doesn’t make him a good one. In his mind, special rules apply only to him.

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      Well it’s kind of semantics. The symbolism behind this is not the hill you’d want to die on. Letting somebody do something can either be allowing it or simply not disallowing it. I hate Trump and his low IQ followers, but that sentence does not imply anything.

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        can either be allowing it or simply not disallowing it

        Exactly.

        When I go take a shit, did you allow it, or not disallow it? Neither, because you have no agency over me, so it’d be a stupid fucking sentence.

        I’m not saying he thinks he owns his daughters like some 16th century inbred minor noble.

        But connotations and implications can exist even when they weren’t particularly intentional by the writer (or speaker.)

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    “Childish and rude”.

    Kinda reminds me of someone.

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      Oh nonononono - you see, when Trump does it, he gets the good words: HE is “good at nicknames”, “strong” and “tells it like it is”. When anybody Trump doesn’t like does the exact same thing, then they are being childish, rude and it is altogether absolutely inacceptable.

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    If liberalism is a mental disorder than neoliberalism is a new mental disorder that is so bizarre it doesn’t even have a definition yet.

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    I hope the three girls organise their own thanksgiving dinner and invite their mom.

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      The American definition of Liberalism is the exact opposite of the original meaning, so maybe he was just being extra-oldschool?

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          Neo liberal / laissez-faire applies to both major parties in the USA.

          Although, it’s certainly becoming less so with the GOP than the Democrats. IE: bailouts for farmers affected by their own tariffs, mass deportations which will affect business, etc.

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              Is a “right winger” who doesn’t follow liberalism even a “right winger” at all, insofar as the term is used in modern US politics? Considering that without the central bird of liberalism there wouldn’t be a need for the division into right and left wing. Maybe I’m off the mark, though?

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          To be liberal was to be open an accepting socially. The americans have changed it to mean to allow anything economically which is then coupled with bigotry because division makes the rich richer, or at least stops them being lynched

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            Bro this is just wrong on the fine details, starting with the fact that the original liberalism, and using that term specifically tends to mean the founding ideology of the American and French Revolutions btw, allowed racial chattel slavery and ending with the reality that the “liberal” parties in most countries besides America are conservatives.

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      His wrongness was so great, that it caused integer underflow and him saying something correct.

      Or horseshoe theory.

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    23 hours ago

    With lines like “[your political opinion] is a mental disorder”, why is he surprised they aren’t coming?

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    “I voted for the idea that women aren’t people, now the women in my life don’t like me.”

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    “Liberalism is a mental disorder” These people are very telling how they treat people who they think legitimately have mental illness.

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      Conservatives 🤝 Liberals
      “The political positions I dislike are caused by mental illness”

      Socialists: "Hey guys maybe we could try not denigrating mental disorders? Maybe we could try building a left wing that welcomes and accepts the neurodivergent and marginalised?

      Liberals: “Fuck you, we’ll never accept psychopaths like Trump!”

      Socialists: “I never agreed with you that Trump is a psychopath. We don’t have to accept Trump in order to treat ASPD folks with dignity!”

      Liberals: “You’re disgusting, enabling abusers like that. If we treat psychopaths with basic dignity, they’ll only use it to abuse us!”

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        Words like psychopath have a common usage for people not in psychology/psychiatry. I’m sorry that we’re not meeting the clinical definition that you want, but I don’t think ranting about it all over Lemmy is going to help anything.

        When the average nonspecialist individual thinks “psychopath” they think of someone like Hannibal Lecter, who is dangerous and must be locked up to prevent them harming others, and that’s not going to change from a short form text post. It would take a semester of psychology.

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            That’s a very vague statement. You didn’t specify which type of empathy. For example, cognitive empathy is the ability to intuit what other people are thinking. Autistic people tend to have less cognitive empathy, which is related to the poor social skills. It’s hard to participate in social situations when you have a clinically significant inability to read minds. Drag doesn’t think you want to treat autistic people with suspicion, so why don’t you work on clarifying your statement to an appropriate level of specificity?

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                  Actually, flies love vinegar. It smells like rotting flesh, which is a great place to go lay eggs.

                  This unintuitive fact matches the truth that being rude to people is an important part of the process of personal growth. Getting people to change takes a carrot AND a stick. When they do change, they’ll remember the carrot more easily. But the stick is important too. You can see this politically with the fact that the government likes to praise MLK for his nonviolent methods, but Malcolm X is the one who got Reagan to pass gun control laws in California. MLK’s movement was threatening because the politicians knew that if they didn’t work with the nonviolent protesters, those protesters would join movements like the Black Panthers. Likewise, rude leftists encourage people to be more open to listening to the polite leftists in their lives. The rude ones raise the stakes.