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  • It’s unbelievably frustrating how much of this narrative is pervasive here. I’m all over these comment replies pushing back against it and here is why: because it is defeatist bullshit. Someone with depression, who is already struggling, reads your comment and now has reason to go “oh well yeah, that’s right, it is hard and it is difficult and I might as well not bother”

    Fuck that. Your metaphor is bullshit. The difference is a person living in extreme poverty can’t generally make huge differences with saving $5 a week. But someone with depression can make significant progress with small behavioral changes to build momentum in the direction they want to move towards. This is not conjecture, this is evidence based both via CBT and behavior activation theory.

    Frankly I would argue pushing the narrative of “well it’s really hard so you might as well just not try” is far more damaging than what the comic outlines. The behavior in the comic is rude and disenfranchising but the behavior in some of these comments is enabling and actively works against someone potentially seeking treatment

    As stated in one of my other replies what do you propose as an alternative? Let people with mental illness languish and send them good vibes? Do you also send thoughts and prayers after mass shootings?




  • I wasn’t replying to the comic, I was replying to that person.

    Regardless of that the problem is not binary issue. A problem is the people demoralizing the individual, sure, but this is a contributing factor to the individuals inaction. The individuals inaction is a problem as well and for said individual this is the worse of the 2 problems, as it is the main one they can act on. You can complain about other people being tone deaf and that is valid, those people are rude, but it’s not moving you forward



  • But you still have to take steps to do it or your hand will never get better. Granted it’s easier if people give you support but depending on where you are at in life that can’t necessarily be something you can count on. So you have to break it down into a manageable step and attack it at that point. If you’re having trouble getting out bed, focus on just getting out of bed. Or don’t, just call a doctor from bed and do telemedicine there if possible. Whatever works.

    It sounds callous to someone that’s deep in it but the reality of the situation is that excuses won’t alleviate your situation. You have to find what you can do, if you can’t do something then it is what it is but you also have to accept that the world does not exist without consequence and you will probably have to accept the consequences of that action (people being frustrated with you for flaking, trouble at work, etc). Pursue accommodations when possible to alleviate the burden but also recognize that depression is a mix of neurochemical and behavioral components. You have a degree of control over severity of the behavioral part and it is about the choices you make with what how you spend your time


  • quixotic120@lemmy.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonerule suckin olympics
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    5 days ago

    because the core concept of ubi is still keeping elitism and ultra wealthy individuals around; it’s just throwing a pittance at the lowest socioeconomic class to keep morale up and limit some of the social issues like crime caused by extreme poverty. But ultimately while some of these societal issues get alleviated you still have the very major issues of things like Elon musk accumulating enough wealth and power to influence elections and purchase modern communications platforms, political lobbying, and other issues associated with extreme classism.

    He is and always was on team tech bro billionaire. He still thinks he (and they) is/are ultimately superior to most people. “Throw some money at them and they will quiet down”



  • Instead of buying sheets of labels with numbers printed on for $12 you can get an actual label maker for like $15-$40 (or way more depending on how fancy you want to get)

    Then you can label the wires with things like “living room cat5” instead of a cryptic “6” that you will forget the meaning of 3 years from now. If you spend a bit more (and maybe the cheap ones can do this, I dunno, I have a $40 one fwiw) you can get label refills that have heatshrink instead of labels. This is SO MUCH better because you can put it on the cable, shrink it, and it stays on forever. Unlike labels, which in my experience fall off when you pull them through walls (or just for no reason at all) 80% of the time. Downside is the heatshrink can’t go over big connectors so if it’s a cable you’re not terminating like hdmi it’s not as viable but for cat5/6 runs, coax, speaker wire, fiber, etc where you’re most likely terminating the cables yourself it’s the best. And even with big goofy hdmi cables you can still just get large heat shrink that has a good shrink ratio and write on it with a sharpie




  • I have 2 GitHub accounts, one under a pseudonym and one under my real name. The pseudonym has probably 200+ repos and that is absolutely not a flex. Most of them are absolute garbage. Tutorials I expanded, projects I started and never fleshed out, documentation for stuff I meant to dive deep into (or sometimes actually did), etc. if a project actually moves along to a place I feel is respectable and worth showing off a bit I’ll clone it to the other account, which has like 10-15 repos maybe

    That said I have no clue if this actually matters


  • quixotic120@lemmy.worldtoPrivacy@lemmy.mlSmart T.V. Privacy Overview?
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    25 days ago

    the answer is basically all TVs are subsidized to some degree. A list is somewhat pointless because they all do some sketchy shit and as lg has recently shown they reserve the right to change the terms years after the fact with firmware updates, even if you buy a flagship model that cost 3-5k

    Basically you need to use it intelligently. Either don’t connect it to the internet at all, only connect it to an intranet/isolated vlan, or (least effective) block every suspicious outgoing request with your router or a dns thing like adguard/pihole.

    The alternatives are to buy a non consumer display (eg something for signage or for like a meeting room in an office) which are usually more durable but also often far more expensive (no ad subsidies), the panel quality is generally noticeably worse (unless you’re buying a mediocre tv), and you lose out on enthusiast features (earc, vrr, etc). Or you can get a solid projector; the cheap projectors are usually kind of junk but nice ones are quite nice and often (but not always, they’re increasingly “smart”) have barebones ui/os. This can be pretty impractical for your living situation though



  • quixotic120@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldPreppers
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    28 days ago

    There’s a Simpson’s episode about preppers where they assume the big bad thing happens and fuck off to their bunkers, stuff happens, and they eventually come back to town. When they come back everyone is happy and doing fine and Marge says something like “things were okay after the first few hours. We all worked together and made it work. It was like all the mean, angry, and resentful parts of the town had just disappeared!”





  • The policy issue to overcome here in America is a robust pension system. Home values are obscene for a lot of reasons but one of the biggest reasons no one does anything about it is because for most non elite Americans the home they own is their most valuable asset and the growth in equity ends up becoming a significant contributor to retirement

    Even with that the dream is over; the days of baby boomers buying houses and seeing explosive growth of 12-20k in 1960 to 200ish-k in 2010 or even gen x buying a house for 100k in 1995 and seeing it mature to 400k in 2020 are unsustainable. The people buying 250-400k houses now (like me) would be foolish to expect their homes to be worth millions in 30 years outside of hyperinflation.

    But I bet money we will cling to it. It’s difficult having seen the past several generations retire very comfortably via the equity in their home, while we make the $2000 mortgage payment that will get us housing but not this benefit. Another way millennials get fucked out of something that every modern generation before them had. To be fair this one had to die but it just sucks all of this gets saddled on us because it’s not like there’s a strong likelihood social security is getting fixed in time