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Why is this article from 2021 getting posted here now? Like, obviously that’s a shitty and hypocritical thing to do, but the lack of context in the post title implies that this was recent?

I don’t know much to be useful in id-ing on sight, but can you describe the conditions it’s been in? Is the soil well-draining? How long does it take for the top inch of soil to appear dried out, and how often are you watering? Did you repot it recently, and/or is the pot the right size (just a bit bigger than the roots)? How often are you using fertilizer? Is it getting any direct light? How many direct and indirect light hours total do you think? Is it autumn where you are and it’s adjusting to less light, or vice versa?

Was @pyre@lemmy.world’s comment not sufficient in this regard? If this is your first time getting misogyny defined for you, I think you need to branch out from Joe Rogan and try some media with women’s voices as a focus.

Since you need your hand held here, this is my perspective: this comic’s humor is just perpetuating a common, incorrect stereotype that women act nice to each other but actually hate each other. The punchline is secretly “women be bitches am I right?” and I believe this because if you swapped either or both of the characters in the comic out for men, it would no longer work as a joke.

Now funnily enough, I didn’t make my Bechdel test joke for the purpose of starting a debate with dudebros online. I’m sure you’ll find something in this comment to pick apart and continue sealioning, so here is your notice that I will not be replying further. Good luck on your journey of learning about feminism!

Hey buddy, I think you’re projecting quite a bit here. I made a Bechdel test joke, and you got “recreationally offended” over it. Have a sense of humor man! It’s just a joke!

Let me answer your question with a question: what do you think is the intended joke/humor of this comic?

Yes! Correct! This does in fact pass the Bechdel test, while still being deeply misogynistic. Thank you for explaining my joke.

When the cartoonist tries to pass the Bechdel test without ever speaking to a woman in his life

I’m hoping that “assist” here is a polite way of saying “keeping an eye on”. Maybe they’ll think twice about pulling shit with non police union folks around who could testify against them later.

Hey buddy, I just want to say- normal people do feel. Big feelings are very normal! It’s okay to let yourself be a romantic, and it’s okay to get heartbroken sometimes too. And it’s also okay to say you need a break from dating if it’s stressing you out to much. The important thing is making sure you feel emotionally supported through any of these decisions.

You mentioned you’re far from family. Do you have local friends that you are close with (nonromantically) who you can talk about this kind of stuff with? Men too often are left emotionally isolated in society, and it’s important that you have that kind of support outside of romantic relationships too.

If you’re feeling ungrounded and uncertain where things are going with this woman even when you’re very excited to spend time with her, it can feel like a lot of pressure to do things “right” or not “mess it up”. That can be really hard on your self esteem when you put that kind of responsibility solely on your shoulders! Relationships are team efforts. I’d maybe try to reframe your situation from “I met this woman and she might be the one but she’s got a long distance bf and what if she chooses him over me??” to something more like “I really enjoy this woman’s company, and while she’s figuring out what her long term plan is, I’m happy to spend time with her. If her long term plans don’t align with mine by [date], we can talk about what next steps that means for us, including breaking up.”

Whatever comes next for you, best of luck friend. You deserve people in your corner who support you enthusiastically.

So Duolingo is lying to me when it makes me say Duo est une chouette? He’s got the little ear thingies, he should be un hibou, non?

If anyone is looking for a way to continue to support creators directly without subscribing to a million patreons, I really like my Nebula subscription, it’s quality content for around $30 annually. I’m tempted to get the flat rate lifetime subscription because they are doing it so much better than YouTube at the moment.

Is there a reason you have characterized this incident as a gender issue?

Was the poor work the work of the nurse who heard you and chewed you out? Do you often criticize the work of your coworkers in a nonproductive manner, expletives or no?

Did you say anything else before saying “fuck” to your coworker, or before she chewed you out? Do you think you were on good terms with her before this incident?

Are you listening to the specifics of your coworkers’ complaints? What are they asking you to do differently?

How many US presidential elections do you think there have been since 1984?

My theory: women can’t afford to be wrong in the workplace, and AI is often wrong.

For example, I’ve had a man (a dear friend!) send me text to review about why he wasn’t getting a raise. It was roughly in the ballpark but it was overly formal in some parts, and aggressive where it shouldn’t be. I edited it with better language before he sent it to HR. He got the raise, and told me I was better than ChatGPT (no duh). Maybe he’d have gotten the raise with the original text, but I doubt I would have.

This is true, but the larger the margin the more difficult it makes it for them to contest.

Vote. Bring your friends and family to vote. Call up your friends in other states and make sure they have a voting plan.

Voting won’t magically fix our broken political machine but it will help us from sliding deeper in the hole. Vote like you’re taking a stupid little walk outside for your mental health during lockdown- not the only way you should be taking care of things but important maintenance nonetheless.

Here’s my favorite gargoyle

Headline is misleading, it should read something like “WP becomes 2nd major US newspaper to be embroiled in scandal as billionaire owners squash Harris endorsements”

Hi! Not strictly a lesbian here but in a lesbian relationship. Yes, lesbians have top/bottom dynamics typically in the “one doing the action” vs the “one being acted upon” across various different acts. Most switch it up (“vers”), rather than identifying primarily as tops or bottoms. If you are strictly a top or strictly a bottom, you’re described as “stone” as in “stone top” or “stone bottom”.

Very important that these are completely different roles than dominant/submissive/switch, which are BDSM terms and describe a more psychological aspect of a relationship than the more physical top/bottom/vers.

Look, folks in the US are extremely on edge about this election (that’s both currently happening through early voting and the last day possible within 2 weeks), and in particular, foreign interference/propaganda. There’s a lot of crap we’re getting from every angle under the sun trying to get “the right people” to vote and “the wrong people” to stay at home, depending on the political inclination. It’s exhausting and we’re having a bad time. We know shit sucks here and we are trying our hardest to not descend further into fascism with a guy who literally admires Hitler. If we get some lightly progressive policies out of it, that’s great. By pushing some “both parties suck” propaganda in this eleventh hour, everyone is going to dog pile you because we’re sick of this so much.

Thank you lol

I am noting that OP didn’t respond here, mayhaps they enjoy critiquing political circumstances they can’t contribute to more than addressing their own? 🤔

And they edited the post to something innocuous! For anyone coming in late, the original was what u/Prunebutt here said but with US politics instead.