Ethnic and exotic food suddenly sound like very strange terms. This question made me realize that people from outside would call the food of my country simply Brazilian food, but we ourselves divide and subdivided them in more categories. I’m sure the same is true everywhere.

I know this is not a question for discussion, but I thought this could add more variety to the answers.

My provider, small one from my town, or the attendant just decided to give me the password. After months, I found out how to extract the configurations and used my old router instead.

My comment is all context. The word is not the problem, it’s the way it’s being used.

Try it in terms of double standards. It’s an experiment that has been done. People see a man talking aggressively to a woman and some will intervene. People see a woman talking aggressively to a man and the number that intervenes drops significantly, some will cheer.

Or try it in terms of victims of violence. They see people fighting and they react as if they are in immediate danger. They feel safe with their friends, but their friends suddenly decide to start arguments on the street.

Reading what you wrote, I know you can understand the issue. We are not saying you all are wrong, just that it hurts. Can you understand why it hurts? That’s the only thing that really matters and that I want to discuss right now.

Sorry for hijacking the post, but I don’t think people get why this usage of weird bothers some people. It’s not that we (several kinds of weird we) are not used to be called weird or similar. We grew up and found people who were like us and understood our quirkiness. Weird was the weapon of the bigot and we took that away from them. Until our friends, or community at large, started acting like the people that hurt us in the past. We could deal with the bullies and ignorant using it against us, but this new situation was unexpected.

I don’t like comparing struggles, but I’ll use examples to, maybe, make things clear. Using queer instead of weird would have bothered them the same, although I don’t believe it would have worked the same way, but more people at our side would see the issue. And the next one might be much more personal, but reading “good weird, bad weird” sounds like “good negro, bad negro” to me. You don’t get to judge or qualify me.

Also, even in a discussion that completely accepts and is understanding of people using weird as a weapon to the point of trying to find another word to be used in a positive way, there are comments that invalidate the feelings of those who are affected. If you believe words have power, why can’t you see the collateral damage?

Honestly, I’m trying to endure it until election season ends there in the USA, but I’m starting to feel the need to talk about all the wonderful things I like using the word weird just to counteract the negativity.

I’m going to present you with resources I think might help. I chose two therapists that speak in a way that resonates with me, but it can be different for you.

The first one is Kati Morton. She has straightforward videos talking about health issues and discussing questions from her listeners.

• How do I Create a Suicide Safety Plan? – it’s actually a playlist. I recommend watching the first video and looking for something you find helpful in the list.

• How do I keep going when I feel like giving up? – It’s a longer video, but the second question is the relevant one.

• How do I know what support I need? – This one might help you put into words what others can do for you.

The second one is Georgia Dow. She now makes video analysis about fictional characters, but I think they help to understand some issues and distance ourselves to give some more perspective.

• What you CAN do if you can’t Afford Therapy – This is an interesting one. It’s short and to the point, not an analysis this case, just tips.

• How Family Affects our Psychology: Black Widow – I think this a good example of what she does normally nowadays.

The first video from each therapist is what I really recommend watching. Beside that, based on my personal experiences, I can add a few things. I believe it’s really important for you to have two things: Time to feel and process all your feelings / Time to simply be happy.

Start with something you will be able to manage. Ten minutes for instance. Those ten minutes each are selfishly yours and no one else can interfere.

Set a specific time of the day for processing your feelings and try to keep a routine. Any other time, if you have thoughts and feelings starting to overwhelm you, you can tell yourself that you will deal with them when the time is right. Really tell yourself and make it true. It doesn’t have to be a successful experience, but you can’t lie to yourself and skip you self appointment. I would advise setting a specific time for the happy session too, just so you have something to look forward to.

Processing your feelings can be done by journaling. The secret that helped me with it was hearing that I should just use it as a processing tool. Nothing I write, or the way I write, is that important. Just put it to paper (actual paper is best) and trash it later. Just unload it from your mind so you can see with different eyes. Meditation could work, but I have limited experience with that.

Being happy is making a piece of your day good somehow. It’s the time to leave all the troubles behind, because they will be there later on anyway, but not during the period you decided they shouldn’t matter. It’s a breathing room. Do you like to dance, to listen to music, to cook? Maybe you don’t know what you like or might help. Make a list and start putting items in that list that you can try later. Walk around the block (start small), go to a cat café, read a book chapter, watch a video, take a shower, do a breathing exercise, do silly faces in front of the mirror. I really don’t know, experiment and have fun.

At this point, the focus is building your strength so you can deal with the real hardship your life is putting in front of you. When you don’t have to deal with your mind doubling down on your issues, you can try to find your path to something better. I honestly don’t know what I’m doing and maybe it’s just too much. I hope it’s just enough as to help with a first step though.

Sorry, I didn’t want to make a bad faith argument, but I think it’s necessary to clarify the issue.

The exemption will allow bigots from those instances to still have access and the benefit of doubt. People who might have valid reasons to not disclose openly their position will have to create a new account.

If pronouns are a safety measure, there’s a big flaw in making exemptions. Will the users know the people they are talking are not marked because they can’t be.

Just a thought. Maybe make it a required opener or signature.

(he / him / queer)

There’s not much I can do, but I’m here. I read what you wrote and it mattered. I’m writing because I care. You have all the right to express your suffering. You had a hard life and you are still dealing with it. You are in a transitional state, and sometimes being in the middle is the worst place to be.

You know, reading your story, what I saw was a woman moving forward. You have a lot of empathy for your parents, understanding their circumstances and actions, but what they did hurt you nonetheless. So you have to process it so you can keep moving without that weight.

You are depressed. Not a diagnosis, just the way you present your world. You talk as if you’re worthless. You are not. You talk about killing yourself and worry about inconveniencing others. I know personally how it feels to want to end this horrible existence and to despair when nothing you said prevented a best friend from trying herself. It’s so hard and it seems so easy to end all. The thing is, death comes as a solution but it’s rarely what we want.

What do you want? Really. What is it you are moving forward to? Where’s your happy world? How does it look like?

The only advise I can give right now is to try to challenge the lies we tell ourselves. Start small. Every time you make an absolute statement (I have no value, I always annoy everyone), find one single proof it’s not absolutely true. One instance in which you had the smallest of values or that people enjoyed your company. Then find another one. Also, from time to time, look behind and see how far you’ve come. It won’t change how hard you’ll still have to fight, but it will give you perspective.

Seek therapy if possible. Look up how to find a good therapist if you decide to go in that direction. Be more selfish. You deserve that.

I understand the sentiment and would respect the decision, even if I don’t agree, but there are problems of consistency. You say people should make new accounts if necessary to explore their trans identity, but you’ll allow instance wide exemptions.

I looked it up after commenting. It’s a Trapalhões movie. I probably watched it as a child. I don’t know how or when you watched it, but I would have to defend it for historical reasons. It’s the first movie with the four comedians that formed the main group together. The special effects are awful for being filmed using videotapes and sending them to the USA for transferring to 35mm (an illegal act at the time). They are clowns, as in circus clowns making cinema, which informs a lot of the comedy.

All that to say, as before, it’s good dreadful, something not everyone even believe exists.

I haven’t watched it, and I’m Brazilian, but I’ll defend Brazilian Start Wars anyway. I’ll basically defend [any nationality] Star Wars actually. [any nationality] [any popular franchise] needs to be a genre.

Isn’t that a matter of behavior? The crack is doing something expected from a crack and the system warns you because most wouldn’t use it without being aware. If you really trust the file, add it as an exception.

Or do you want a software that can vet good cracks from bad cracks?