That’s my point - those are not “unexpected hook-ups” (I never feel comfortable with those), those are events in a relationship they could absolutely prepare for, and something that normally comes with a greater level of intimacy.
Changing a bed is unreasonably costly, materially and financially, besides, bed is not necessarily associated with sex.
Getting new condoms is a matter of spending beer money at a nearest pharmacy.
Yeah, had to mention vibrators or something else that was exclusively used on her is generally fine.
To be clear - this is not a sign of insecurity, not retroactive jealousy, either. This is just a simple wish to not interact with anything sexual used by the other guy I never chose to be intimate with and who can be gross to me, even if this is a pack of otherwise separate condoms. Like, it’s not hard or expensive to replace - just buy a damn pack at the nearest pharmacy - and regardless of how much your partner cares, you won’t lose anything either way. And I feel like I’m not the only person in the world caring for such matters.
I feel like as much as we try to make it less of a deal, this is just innately uncomfortable for many - not through insecurities it’s often written off to, but rather through the nature of the intimate, of the highly personal. I want for our sex life to be ours alone in all aspects, not because someone else was “better” - I seem to be good and skillful and attractive - but because they, for all their previous experience with her, are not invited.
Also, heavily agree on vague answers and signs that partner is pressured. This is a no-go.
No, as I said, I do not welcome hookups and would not appreciate if she’d go randomly fucking with everyone before dating me.