• Danquebec@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    I’ve read lesbians sometimes don’t find out they are lesbian until they are in their twenties.

    How is that even possible? Have they never felt arousal until then? Have they not seen girls undressing in the locker rooms? Have they not seen sexy music videos? And many more questions.

    At 12 I (m) was masturbating to music videos of Beyonce ans Christina Aguilera, and just seeing a woman in a short skirt can make me breathless for a second. The concept of not having found one’s sexuality until adulthood is a hard one for me to grasp.

    • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.com
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      3 months ago

      You have to remember that society is always telling you to live your life in a very specific way. Being an awkward teenager is a period where you’re supposed to be confused and finding things out about the world and being an lgbtq teenager is no different. There’s a surplus of teenage hormones that are new and confusing and you may not know what you want.

      For lesbian women specifically, it’s not easy to have the entire world telling you your sexuality is just going to be a phase and that one day a big strong man is going to come along and “fix” you because after all “everyone feels those feelings sometimes.”

      Disclaimer: I’m not a lesbian woman, just a bi guy with some experience with being confused about my sexuality.