• mostdubious@lemmy.world
    121·
    7 小时前

    the great touring jam bands provided a wonderful environment to meet new people in back in the 90’s. the parking lots of grateful dead and phish concerts were chock full of society’s misfits, many of them well-read and witty (some of them not-so-much). It was not introverted at all - there were so many outgoing, lively, and fun people.

    i think many of you are more outgoing than you give yourself credit for. you just live in a world where you don’t want to mingle with the inhabitants, and i think that might even reflect a skewed view of the outside world. i’m pretty far left and i still have fun in bars in little ranch towns in the western states. most of those people are more fun than your average morose, urban-dwelling shoe gazer.

    • ArchRecord@lemm.eeEnglish
      1·
      1 小时前

      The main issue for a lot of people is a lack of good third places.

      Combine less and less free time outside of work, with higher nationwide costs affecting access to third places that you would otherwise congregate with people in, (i.e. cafes, bars, clubs, etc) and you get people who, while probably somewhat outgoing, are unable to actually be outgoing, since there’s not a good place to express that in.

  • Katrisia@lemm.ee
    19·
    8 小时前

    I mean, we are not 100% unfindable, we comment here on Lemmy! Normalize finding love through Lemmy (/jk).

    • lagomorphlecture@lemm.ee
      2·
      2 小时前

      Does having a cat count as being in a relationship? Because I feel like it should. I used to have a tuxedo cat who I actually got married to all the time. I couldn’t help it, he was all dapper.

  • jerkface@lemmy.caEnglish
    45·
    11 小时前

    It’s really hard to meet people because all the people I want to know are hiding from humanity.

    • Asafum@feddit.nl
      11·
      11 小时前

      I don’t want the type of person I’d meet at a bar and there really aren’t many events for things I’m into around me. The people I’d like are more than likely like me, hoping I’d teleport into their living room just the same.

      I’m also in a terrible place for my personality. It feels like I’m in materialistic asshat conservative HQ, so there’s that too…

      • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world
        41·
        9 小时前

        Bentonville, AK AR?

        Edit’ wrong state abbreviation. Sorry Alaska! Didn’t mean to offend any of the dozens of you up there.

        • Asafum@feddit.nl
          3·
          8 小时前

          Long Island actually lol

          NY is weird because people have the impression that it’s all blue and chock full of “liberals” but a lot of long island is racist and conservative AF. A lot of “greater NY” is also conservative other than the larger cities. Long Island is also super expensive to live in so you tend to have more wealthy materialistic people here.

  • Mercury@lemmy.world
    18·
    11 小时前

    teleports behind you Nothing personal, kid… But would you like to be the love of my life?

    • Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee
      1·
      9 小时前

      (Me trying to catch up all the parallel universes my SO is ahead of me … and barely holding back tears) Special technique: blast of emotional damage miasma that inflicts 1000 years worth of existential dead per second purely by proximity to me!

      But I’m glad you have moral standards & appropriately chose an empty place where we can have our duel.

  • Tattorack@lemmy.world
    8·
    10 小时前

    Sounds like an invasion of my privacy! I could be doing art at that moment, or some kind of lore deep dive. How rude to just teleport in like that!

    • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.netEnglish
      4·
      8 小时前

      I noticed you were reading through the Babylon 5/Star Trek crossover fan-wiki and I find that very attractive…

  • Dagwood222@lemm.ee
    7·
    12 小时前

    [off topic?]

    Wonderfully cheesy 1970s movie “Logan’s Run” had a deal like that. Instead of just swiping on an image, people teleported to your house. If you liked each other you’d step off the platform…

    [The movie has a brief appearance by Farrah Fawcett, which gives it high 1970s nostalgia appeal]

  • dwemthy@lemdro.idEnglish
    55·
    1 天前

    Worked for me! Roommate was throwing a party and my now-wife got dragged along to it by her friend

  • Eiri@lemmy.ca
    311·
    1 天前

    That post’s gotta chill with the personal attacks, geez.