• shadowedcross@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    Well it’s 3 things for me:

    1. Too expensive
    2. Don’t think I’d make a good dad, especially since:
    3. I really don’t like children.

    I’m not an antinatalist, though. I think we can still improve our situation, so I don’t agree with choosing to not have children, because of the current state of the world, or because of fear it’ll become too extreme. I guess it’s possible you just want to wait to see if it gets any better, but personally speaking, if I were to have children, I’d choose to do so before I was 40. It isn’t enjoyable for the child, for them to be born much later than that.

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      2 months ago

      Part of my problem is i can’t even find trustworthy relationships. Everyone is addicted to hook up culture and finding their next partner on their phone. I’ve even had people claim I’m sexist because I’d want my partner to remain sober during their pregnancy (I’d be willing to stay sober with them the entire time as well).

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        Ummm…those people are absolutely not people who should be having children anyhow so I guess you’re dodging a while bunch of Bullets?

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        I’m trying to understand who you hurt with your comment to get downvoted like that. I 100% agree with you and even for those who don’t, not drinking during pregnancy is an absolute must if you don’t want to fuck up your child’s health for life…

        As for not wanting to be part of the hookup culture is totally a valid personal choice. What’s wrong with that?

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          Just guessing but “everyone is addicted to hookup culture” could come off a bit vaguely incel or the problem is everyone else, nothing wrong with me.
          Personally I have several friends & family members, who met their significant other through one “hookup app” or another. Most of them are married and have children nowadays, and are seemingly in very loving and caring relationships.
          Don’t get me wrong, datings sucks or rather I sucked at it; on top of that the scene could be even worse than it used to be. But you know, Michael Jackson told us all to start by asking the man in the mirror, to make that change.