If you’ve got privilege, resentment is inevitable, and you need to come to terms with it. If the resentment is sufficient excuse to bow out and choose not to do what you can to work at dismantling that privilege gap, well, the resentment is well earned, because you’re part of the problem.

But if you genuinely understand that resentment of inequality is inevitable, and also essential to drive the dismantling of it, then you’ll find a way of dealing with it, because justified resentment is pretty low on the list of issues that need to be addressed in the moment.

And the thing about privilege, is that the people with it, are the people best positioned to dismantle it. So if you genuinely care about the inequity, that should drive you to stay invested.

Of course, everyone has limited capacity, but even so, you can still choose to make decisions when voting, you can still choose to call out your peers, and you can make sure you don’t steal the stage from folk who lack your privilege.

It’s true of issues around racism, sexism, ableism, financial inequity and anything else where disparity exists. You don’t owe it to throw yourself in everything and burn yourself out, but you can still choose to make good choices on every one of those topics.

Even if you’re not invited to feminist spaces, you can still do the work. And if you are invited, make the most of it, don’t steal the spotlight, and, do the work