• i_love_FFT@lemmy.ml
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    5 months ago

    In my late 30s, still doing it. I don’t expect to be rewarded though, I just want to toil away without being a dick to people around me.

  • confusedbytheBasics@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    In my late 30s I realized I could work a little less hard, ask for support, and ask for what I wanted without expectations. It’s an improvement so far.

    • Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      In my early 30s and after the constant flow of assholes fail upwards and get promoted ahead of me, I decided to set fire to the world and did a Office Space.

      That constant directness led me to run a department.

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    5 months ago

    At 15, on my first job. There were 3 others in the same position. I finished first, perfectly, while they goofed off. Told the manager, all excited. She had me clean out a closet while I waited for the others to catch up. It was a real defining moment.

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      5 months ago

      The best thing is that this is true in every job. Your reward for being 15% more productive than everyone else is an extra 5% in wages. Sometimes not even that.

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    5 months ago

    30s. Earning well, no issues yet.

    Being good to the people around me and those in my community isn’t an act. It’s just how I feel I should be.

    I now work on projects I’m passionate about, and spent years prior swinging a tool.

    Everyone’s path is different. I was lucky, but I didn’t act a certain way because I was trying to put up an act. It’s just how I conduct myself.

    • brbposting@sh.itjust.works
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      5 months ago

      Lucky af here too. None of the “work sucks” stuff ever realllly resonates with me. But I sympathize all the same. Just happened to get super lucky in most every way. We need to do better for the majority, but even an evil system ends up working well for some folks (perhaps only a privileged few). So, caution people on blanket “absolutely everything sucks, trust no one!” kinda thinking.

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    5 months ago

    Ok but if I’m even slightly mean to someone they try to screw me over for the rest of my life. Meanwhile, I see people getting away with it. I need a tutorial on being an asshole that people tolerate.

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      5 months ago

      You have to make sure you’re only being an asshole to people who’re seen as beneath you. If someone above you both likes that person better than you’re going to get fucked. They on the other hand can be an asshole to you with impunity.

      • RGB3x3@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        Kiss up, kick down. That’s how it’s always worked.

        I don’t condone it, because we should be kissing down and kicking up, but the rich people don’t want it that way.

  • SuperSpruce@lemmy.zip
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    5 months ago

    Not yet. I’m still a college student and need good employer letters of recommendation.

    My plan is when I graduate is get offers from a bunch of companies, and then start a bidding war among them.

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          5 months ago

          Generally first grads aren’t worth much. I have trained a lot of interns and no exaggeration I can put out easily 8x as much work as they can. It isn’t magic, it is just experience. Additionally whenever a fresh grad is hired, in what I have seen, there were a dozen or so candidates just as qualified.

          I have been doing my line of work for 15 years and I am not confident I would be able to win a bidding war.